Its sad cause I know for a fact this is a losing battle. If your husband does not agree to any compromise, there is probably another reason why he always wants to spend his vacation with his parents. Five months later I was pregnant. Its best to spend one Christmas with his family and the next with yours, right? So the last month theyve seen his family every weekend? I like to relax at home. I know many families like this. If you cant deal for the long haul, then dont. ForeverYoung Youve been together four months. It certainly wasnt for me or any of my friends when they took the next step. January 20, 2012, 11:41 am. Or stay the whole time? Whether you need help around the house, want to go on a romantic weekend getaway together, or just want to cuddle while watching movies, youre entitled to it. If you want things to change, you need to be the catalyst for change. I got to see my parents occasionally after work even when he was away. There have been times where Im ready to leave Peters moms and it takes forever to try to leave and I get annoyed, or if she pops in and Im just not in the mood for company, but I feel like those are just mere annoyances. Yeah, although all for non-pandemic times. But the way you spend your money, in my opinion, shouldnt change. AKchic There are so many preserved places that are paid for with tax dollars so you might as well use them. That would be great if your husband didnt spend every weekend with his family instead of you. Maybe thats what really got me thinking. If one or a few things are particularly very important to you, then those will most likely be discussed just because. If Bitter Gay Mark disagrees with me, Ill reconsider. Thats why he wants to help them all the time and probably helps them with various jobs every weekend. which reminds me of my friends who was cheated on i was telling you about yesterday. Just tell him you are unhappy with your current social life. It is clear that his family comes first, and your family and your wishes are less important to him. Plus his parents never made him feel like thats what he had to be doing. It took both of us a while to cut that back to what it is now, first it moved to one set of parents each weekend so wed alternate, and then down to every couple weeks. Yea I totally agreethis is a very short timeline. January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. June 18, 2014, 12:32 pm. But seriously, moving in with a guy after dating him for three months? It doesnt mean he loves her any less. But whatever you do, LW, dont make this some kind of Choose them or me test. silver_dragon_girl I agree with you. June 18, 2014, 11:28 am. DO NOT just wait every weekend with huffy baited breath to see what he will choose, voice what you want. To use my own example, my mom lives alone, she is not the most sociable person, so I go and see her for a couple of hours almost every weekend, while my BF does his own thing, whatever that may be. But moving in together may also make you slack on spending time with your own friends and hobbies. The adult children often rely heavily emotionally on the parents, depend on them to decide many or most of their decisions(particularly ones that are important), and so on. Maybe we are just really suited to each other but there really werent any bumps in the road. That is not the way that I would ever want it to be. I just dont understand this concept. When I lived in Paris my host siblings were like that. He lived 4.5 hours away. Have you explained that to him? Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. The adult children are taught to never make a decision without consulting the parents or family. Even with stuff planned, spending time with his daughter, etc., he still prefers to spend his free time at his parents home. Youre lifestyles dont mesh and they probably never will. It showed up in the wrong spot for some reason. LW has already talked to bf and this hasnt worked. ReginaRey Tell him youre staying home three weekends out of four (which is completely reasonable) and hes welcome to stay with you or hes free to go see his parents, but you live in the city because you like the urban life and the weekend is your time to enjoy that life. As with many LWs, your issues could be fixed if you just COMMUNICATE. I really like going on dates and spending time with just you on Saturday and exploring the city, parton_doll First, they have to lead partners to interact with each other in a positive way. June 18, 2014, 11:34 am. I can see his point about just sitting around the house so get out and be a tourist in your hometown. WebYou are a good person for trying to bond with your husbands family. OR maybe he makes more money than she does and doesnt realize the strain on her finances. Laura Hope If he wants to spend time with their family, perhaps you can go with him when he visits. In a family dynamic where an adult person is tethered very closely to the authority figures in particular, this does have a psychological effect on the adult child or children. Its just that based on textbooks and the definition of words and so on, yes sometimes things will be labeled as normal or dysfunctional. Ryan Howes, clinical psychologist. This is for your husband to do, but you have to let him know. If you dont say anything, how in the hell is he supposed to know anything is wrong? Maybe the new place would start to feel more like home. Hes not weird to want to spend time with his parents, and if shes gone along with it until now, getting him to change wont be easy. I know how he feels about adoption because he shared his feelings on it during a discussion I started simply saying someday Id love to adopt and really hope it will happen. Just over coffee, no contracts or anything. Its weird. In many cultures that is the norm. He also has a kid so Im basically competing with so much people. Your problem is thinking you can change him. But are they really guilting the boyfriend? A picnic in the park? Your Much of the advice seems to center around just talking to the boyfriend about the problem and even asking why the LW wrote to Wendy after only 3 weeks of a problem, without talking to bf. I cant imagine that life! A lot of family time. January 20, 2012, 8:52 pm. Another weekend and the same situation again; its like youre living in Groundhog day. Im torn. If he did this every single night, though, I would not be so supportive, to say the least. I realize that some situations are delicate, and they may want help on what exactly to say, but this isnt really one of those. Yes, this. And I did my bit in the thumbs war on your side! I think that, though you try to play it off as not a big deal, you are a little jealous/sad that your boyfriends parents live close and yours live far away. ReginaRey Please see my post below.. allathian On one side you get the parents who reinforce their power and superior knowledge over and over again by holding their adult children in the nest, on the other side you get an individual who rather depend on the parents because by the time they are adults its just much easier and normal for them to continue letting mommy and daddy do all the hard thinking for them. Once upon a time when you were little, mom and dad did know more than youbut entering adulthood is when you yourself should be acquiring knowledge just as your parents did. My parents have an awesome house with a huge yard with bike, 4 wheelers, space for baseball, a pool, tennis court (now I sound spoiled)if we lived close enough Id rather hang at their house than our little apartment. I thought the same thing. But Ill tell you what. Like he was programmed that way. Find a free movie or concert in the park, those seem to be like everywhere. June 18, 2014, 12:24 pm. Lemongrass Do something small to build trust, and then your relationship will slowly but surely flourish. January 20, 2012, 11:18 am. you still have some kinks to work out and a lot to learn about eachother! And please, do not take that literally, I just couldnt come up with a better one. And sorry about the relationship ramble aboveits Friday, what can I say? I support this and even though it isnt practical for me to take the baby all the way to the other side of the city every time he goes (an hour and a half subway commute round-trip), I have no problem spending an evening by myself with Jackson so Drew can get in some time with his dad. Plan a trip to visit your family. January 20, 2012, 9:13 am. lets_be_honest If he chooses visiting his parents because the alternative is sitting at home, plan some fun things for you two to do together that will be too good for him to pass up. Hes probably simply not used to her stating her own desires and needs if she always goes along with him. Addie Pray allathian If I ask him if we can just stay home for the weekend, he will agree but then he will also make me feel like the bad guy for it, and he doesnt understand why its a big deal to go there instead of sitting at home. I Hate My New Job After 2 Days Is it Horrible To Quit? Do you guys never visit/spend time with them? im kind of confused. Now he plans for you two to live as close to them as possible. After a year and a half of this, I asked my ex if we could have a parent-free Sunday, just us. January 20, 2012, 10:51 am, lets_be_honest By not wanting to rock the boat people are just blindly having faith in relationships. Five Steps for Maintaining an Open Relationship, When Do You Know Its Time to Break Up With Someone?, My Daughter is Trying to Ruin My Relationship. January 20, 2012, 9:44 am, So this is what you need to do LW. which i think is what youre saying. If he wants to visit his parents for dinner once or twice a week, his wife should be accompanying him. Tax Geek He considers you a party breaker because you dont want to sit all day every weekend with his family and listen to the same stories. But Im talking about my family. Just set a boundary that you wont spend more than so-and-so-many hours there and get ready to leave when you want to. Too much info missing. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. I have a friend whose husband is like this. every place has natural wonders. But if that has been the case and she doesnt want it to continue, she should try to stop it now. Go to a zoo! Communication is always the basis of solving any problem. Like, it didnt even cross their mind to get out. January 20, 2012, 12:27 pm. Parents are supposed to prepare their kids for the real world, the best that they can. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. His parents tell him they gave him everything, and he neglected them when he married. Pronouns made that a little less clear. A lot of other things contributed to our divorce, but the parental involvement in our life didnt help. She thought he would change, and he hasnt. Either that or another kind of quiet crisis or else the holidays . Agreed. My husband and I will go to a public driving range and a large bucket is $9. Im in the same boat. Youre right, LW, this is dysfunctional. Maybe he doesnt understand this because YOU SPEND EVERY WEEKEND WITH HIS PARENTS. Its my little refuge, and sometimes I like coming home and just hanging out on the couch with the BF reading or watching movies. Shes not being selfish or mean, shes simply asking for him to place more importance on her & their relationship. First, you are against it because youre fine where you live and dont want to ruin it. January 20, 2012, 11:08 am. Maybe if you stop going every single time hell decide to stay home with you every now and then. I wonder if part of this is having to share your time with someone else. Ok fine, I actually beg DWers even to move in with me (Im looking at you, rachel!). If money is tight, you dont even have to plan expensive excursions. And there are always occasions forfamily gatherings. He usually wants to go to his parents house every single weekend he gets to come home. Your husband loves to drink it with his dad while discussing sports. . Its not explicitly in the letter, by I got the feeling that the weekend visits to bfs family preceded the moving in together, but that she still had some weekend time to herself. It doesnt have to be the way you make it out to be though. When you find that you and your partner spend most of your time together sitting on the couch watching TV or scrolling on your phone, a conversation most likely Clearly the guy likes to spend time with his family, and might have different views on social life than you. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. June 18, 2014, 10:50 am. everyone just has a different approach to their relationship. I hate having family stay over at our house. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. Personally, I would give him an ultimatumtherapy or you need to move on and find someone whos actually emotionally available. Looking for signs and cues is, as sure you might be, assumption. Yeah, it is all really about individual preferences. NOt exactly like you put it, but yes I believe there are certain things (finances mostly) that def have to be discussed prior to moving in with your SO. Help him understand that while you do like his family (and its great that you like his family thats not always the case! SpaceySteph I do care for his parents and they are nice people but at the same time I want a separate life with just me and my boyfriend. Yeah.. January 20, 2012, 9:27 am. But since shes there all the time, he might feel like hes catching up with his family. I guess then that depends on the LWs definition of a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. Not only is it a long commute to my boyfriends familys place, but its also starting to get expensive paying for the commuter train both ways (we split expenses pretty evenly even though I make significantly less). I would probably always choose vegging at my parents house over mine, or even my boyfriends. Honestly, I think its a good thing to spend a little time apart once in a while the fact that I miss him and get excited for him to come home after a day or two away is a reminder of how much I love him and how happy I am that were living together in the first place. This can also be a consequence ifhis parents are selfishand manipulate him into feeling bad because he doesnt see them enough. And if he doesnt, then thats a big red flag. Visiting families and spending time with siblings takes up much time in a marriage. June 18, 2014, 11:41 am. If the LW has just been going every weekend without their being discussion, then that has to stop now. Other things (chores etc) can be discussed as you go along. January 20, 2012, 9:32 am, Actually, Im with you on the finance thing. But according to the LW, they dont have anything else to do.. Well, thats separate problem. January 20, 2012, 10:33 am. Youve lived together for three weeks. Your husband fears marriage will estrange him from his family, so he has to visit them every weekend. SpaceySteph IF you are going to live together you have to learn to communicate and let him know when things bother you. ReginaRey January 20, 2012, 8:08 am. January 20, 2012, 2:04 pm. allathian Blondie Bring it up and communicate your feelings and desires. At the end of the day though like Wendy said, the situation itself isnt going to change, so either find ways to deal with it, or leave. So, say a family gets together every week for Sunday Dinner- you think thats dysfunctional? remember, its only been 3 weeks since you moved in. Its over the top. The parents, being in a position of power, are influencing their adult children by complying to this routine or set up. Those things how they want to spend their weekends, their philosophies about money are the kind of things you should know about someone BEFORE making the huge commitment of moving in together. He even startedtalking badly about your family, and you feel he wants to distance you from them. On the weekends he spends at It doesnt scream big problem to me. Yes, maybe it is a little TOO much time with the family. Then, he needs to ask her, calmly and without accusation, why she prefers to spend her weekends with her So why are you still with him? It would be a waste to find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, only to lose the chance to be with them because of your lack of awareness or an inability He told you hedoesnt want to spend Christmas with your family. There is a very natural way to spark further conversation on this topic and perhaps get beyond the impasse. One thing is for sure, he comes home to you at the end of the weekend, even more tired than he left. FireStar No, not necessarily. Some families really are just that close. I think maybe its like he would spend time with her, and go on his own to his parents before they moved in, but since they live together maybe she feels like since hes going she has to go along. You say you cant get your boyfriend to understand that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. Are you and your husband having any problems in your marriage? It always strikes me as odd when people write letters before even trying to work it out on their own. This boyfriend seems like one of those people whose default is go home. I bet when he lived at home he barely left the house. But I wouldnt go as far to say he is emotionally dependent and his family is dysfunctional. By the time I never realized it actually made people feel like shit though. 15 signs he doesnt want to spend time with you 1) Hes always busy Granted, most people are busy these days. I can totally see this though, wanting to chill at the parents. ?? As my Irish/Italian grandmother used to say Begin as you mean to go on., rangerchic While he enjoys his sweet nostalgia and thinks abouthow good things used to be, you sit at home and wonder if you can handle such issues with such an immature husband. Just remember how he didnt want tomove out of his parents house. They used to spend time in the city before living together and now nearly every weekend with his family. Spend most of their spare time with Mom, and significant others take a backseat. Or go to batting cages. Those conversations should have happened before. Its not only a blow to your self esteem but also in how you pick your mate overall. But to leave your girlfriend every weekend for no other reason than youd rather spend time with your parents than with her is showing a major red flag. That was seven years ago. Hes going to choose you. WebI've also been in a relationship with Tim for three years. I was saying you would know/discuss important things because you are in a relationship, without a business meeting atmosphere. It was a huge fight, and the beginning of the end for us like Id asked if we could murder his folks! so you dont promote communicating with your partner about money or anything else before moving in? For example, my SO knows I would love to adopt one day. However, we spend 80% of the time hes home at the parents house. No, spending 1 or 2 weekends with the parents or your boyfriends isnt that many, but it is, if you dont get to see your boyfriend at all in between these times. Link AnneJune 18, 2014, 10:20 am This is typically how this dynamic functions. Do you ever say hey, I dont want to go, so Im going to stay home this time around, or do you keep your mouth shut with a smile firmly planted on it, rictus and all? Relationship time without your family is really important to me and I hope we can work in implementing a date day/night where it is just us.; your other option if he still doesnt agree to this or guilts you, is ending the relationship, because this is not going to change. If they cant spend an entire weekend apart, its dysfunctional. It sounds codependent to me. If so thats just about the worst reason in existence for moving in with a boyfriend. If its true that you miss your family and that hanging with his makes you homesick for your own, acknowledge that and own those feelings. He values his family and wants to spend his free time with them (and you). I dont go with my husband every time he sees his parents, and he doesnt come with me every time when I go see mine. LW, you are not being unreasonable! Agreed. ForeverYoung Yes. I never feel like Im the priority and always in the backseat:(. If you dont find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. Its even understandable to spend every weekend with them if someone is terminally ill (or some other similarly serious circumstance). Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. Thats totally a lot. If he goes alone to see his parents, I do slightly disagree with Wendys implication that this means he is choosing them over her. At best, a season and a half. If that doesnt work if he wont set aside some time for the two of you, or if you need more distance from his family than hes willing or able to manage, then Im afraid its MOA time. Or rob a bank to pay for the more costly dates. And if they live together. i mean yeah there are certain things that happen naturally but there are certain things you have to have a conversation about. Laura Hope Youve got to convince him that he can enjoy Well. 2. Did you guys actually read this letter? Honestly, if she came back here and said she suggests things to do, or frames her conversations with boyfriend differently, I would have a different response. I have to say, I kind of feel like LW jumped the gun on this one. Just because you live together does not mean the dating portion of events is over. If the situation is even more complicated, for example, if his parents are old or his siblings have problems, your husband will feel even more guilty for leaving them. You are asking how you can change him and his feelings on this and get him to grow up. Your husband wants you tospend every holiday with his parents, and he doesnt even ask you what you want. maybe im misunderstanding you. Listen and dont judge when he tells you why he likes going to his parents and respect his opinion on that. But if throughout dating you looked for all those little signs and clues that led you to believe that you are on the same page, I do not see the need for an official information session, or why it is wrong to assume that things will just continue as they are. He needs a lot of family time, you need a lot of just-the-two-of-you time. Some people are just family people, and want to spend a TON of time with their parents/siblings/etc. January 4, 2021, 3:09 am. If you are an introvert, unlike your husband, who is a social butterfly, there are more reasons for arguments. Play frisbee in the park! And am going to go to the bathroom, stick my head up my ass, sign lulabyes and probably have quite a splendid day. If you split everything while dating, I dont think it is wrong to assume that you will continue doing so once you move in together. Will.i.am Let your boyfriend stay at his parents longer and do something else in the meantime. its a really exciting time for your relationship! Just plan something, anything. I have been marriend two my husband for five years. No matter how long they could be dating, if he preferred spending his weekends with her because that was their only opportunity, she would not have known that once they live together he will choose to spend that time with his family because now he sees her every day at home. This went on for two and a half years, and after that we moved in together. . But this situation doesnt even necessarily sound like heavy parental guilting (even though the LW says it makes her feel guilty), just like oh we want to spend more time with you! and the LWs not as used to letting it go. Who keeps the dog? You are still in the early days of this relationship so make sure you are upfront with your expectations. I have friends who are engaged and live together. January 20, 2012, 9:28 am. Yes. But what Im truly wondering is if this difference in opinion over how to spend the weekends is reflective of other big differences between you two that you didnt have time to learn before you moved in together. im guessing its not going to be such a big deal, he just had no idea because you didnt say anything! If he came back home, he would insist that we spend the whole weekend out in the rural area hanging out with his parents. Pretty much. I agree with the expenses. lets_be_honest This is how children are taught. And would you make someone feel bad because they have something else to do? Hey, were in 100% agreement today, as opposed to 80%. also, go on Pinterest and put in cheap date ideas. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? . At first I thought it was sweet that he spent so much time with his folks (my mom died when I was 7 and my dads parental rights were terminated by the state, so I had no idea how families worked). A conversation like that could end up being a red flag for HIM that you did not intend. I dont think that is healthy. Id say first, talk to him and say that you dont want to spend every weekend at his parents place. Theyve been going out for only four months and living together three weeks. What should I do? Do you just go to your SO and say, Dear, before we do that we have to talk. Not needing to have such a sterile conversation because youve given enough time to learn that about each other naturally and observe how the other person lives? If the amount of time he spends with his parents is causing an issue in his relationship, then I would say its definitely a problem he needs to address. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. 03/07/2022 08:00. Summer and fall is half the year. The money thing should definitely be discussed too I mean when youre looking for apartments how does this not come up? It is not wrong to Want to spend time with loved ones, but as an adult you ought to be fair and accommodating of your partner and potential kids. says that maybe he needs to transition from one house to the next, seeing as its only been three weeks. But, guilting someone is wrong and there is a little of that going on here. Explain to him that you value your time together just the two of you and make some suggestion as to how you could spend that time. Fast-forward almost 30 years: I become friends with several ppl who all are super tight with their moms. I am afraid for humanity. lets_be_honest I mean if youre moving in together youre obviously adults, and it shouldnt be an awkward conversation. 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